Weird concept right!? Does loving myself mean that I am arrogant, up myself, big headed, vain and self-centred?
Absolutely not! It means that I appreciate what my body does for me and how my mind works. It means that I’m happy, inside and out and I put aside what really doesn’t matter.
It never ceases to amaze me the amount of clients that really struggle with saying out loud, “I completely Love and accept myself”
Such a simple thing to say, however so few people actually believe it about themselves so in turn cannot bring themselves to actually say it.
Everybody goes through things in their lives that disrupt the natural flow of energy. Like loss of confidence because of different experiences that we go through. Stressful situations that drain us of energy that we didn’t have too loose in the first place.
People say things to us that affects us emotionally. Things that really play with our heads and all of a sudden we start to believe our thoughts and what others have said to us.
It doesn’t even have to be something that someone has said to us, it could be just a “Look” that was given to us, a “Look” of disapproval that knocked our confidence. It could be that we are desperate to fit into what society says is the ideal body shape or size. Or that a relationship has not worked out and we blame ourselves. As we grow, all of this compounded, really does effect what we think about ourselves. This in turn and over time sabotages any love that we ever had for ourselves, turning our thoughts to negative and self-loathing thoughts and this triggers us into victim mode.
Self-love is for me the most important milestone in my journey to wellness. Appreciating what my mind and body does for me. My mind and body is continuously working hard to allow me to do anything that I want to do. It even does things without me even knowing. It keeps me alive by continuously sucking in oxygen and pumping blood around my body. It tells me when I am hungry and thanks me when I have eaten and moved in my day. My body deserves love, it deserves it more than anything else. The more love I give myself, the more love I have to give everyone else around me.
So, I hear you say, how can I learn to love myself? How can I change my thoughts, to thoughts of love, appreciation and kindness about myself?
You can start by writing down 5 things that you like about yourself, if that is a stretch, start with 1 or 2 or 3… whatever you can muster up. Repeat these things to yourself daily and write more and more as you start to notice and love more things about yourself.
Move daily! Joyful movement is really good for your body both mentally and physically. When you move, your body releases endorphins which make you feel good. Improved self-esteem is the number 1 benefit of regular physical activity. So, get out there and see how great you feel after moving your body.
Eat food that makes you feel good, Food that you really enjoy. Savour the taste and notice how you feel after you have eaten.
Wear clothes that fit and compliment whatever your gorgeous body is. Accept all the beautiful humps and bumps that make you, you.
Practice EFT/tapping to remove negative energy disruptions from your body’s energy system. This will change your life!!!
Practice forgiveness and create harmony within yourself and others.
Doing all of these things, overtime, you will start to realise that you are worth all the love in the world.
Wonderful words and so so useful. Thank you 🙏
Thanks Jaine! X
Your Self love post was beautiful Charlotte. It’s so true. We need to learn to love ourself inside and out and nourish our mind and body with all the good stuff so we can thrive. Great tips to identify things you like/love about yourself xo
Aww thanks Caz! X
Just what I needed to read today Charlotte 🙏
Awesomeness! Xx
Your preaching to the converted here, doesn’t mean though, that I don’t need reminding. Forgiveness is a niggling irritant and a reminding that everyone is innocent. By believing this I can overcome resentment, believing innuendo, condemning, judging, all those negative influences. Your blog reminds me to work everyday on what I believe. I struggle with folk who have low self esteem and a lack of self confidence. I see it daily. I can relate from my earlier years in life. Learning to love me, because I am being the best person I can be was a revelation for me many years ago. If you are doing your best, if you are putting in your best effort, then you can do no more. Love yourself because you are wonderful and you are you.
Wonderful comment Dee! Thank you for sharing x